New York, NY (PRWEB) June 7, 2006
Life started out so great. It felt as though you were locked inside a great big bubble of happiness. You got married to the love of your life and proceeded to have three children. You are young. You were young. Your husband or wife has been taking care of all the bills. Three or four years go by and things are slowing changing. Your husband or wife is not home as much to help you with your household chores or with caravaning the children to their in sundry appointments and birthday parties. You feel isolated and alone. Suddenly you start to see things unraveling. You become unhappy, you start to feel unworthy. You worry because you have no idea what is happening to your life, a life which was once the envy of your single friends.
You wonder… is this the way things are supposed to turn out? Then the arguing begins, sometimes involving verbal abuse or even physical abuse. Sometimes, you just feel isolated and neglected. You have no one to talk to about your changing life. You have asked, but your spouse refuses to see a marital counselor or counsel from your church or synagogue. You can not turn to family, as they are still reminding you of how wonderful your spouse has been, what a wonderful provider he or she is. And then the day comes when your husband or wife tells you that they no longer love you or that they want a divorce or separation.
In New York State, the NYS divorce attorney hears a version of the above fact scenario day in and day out. The above stated fact scenario is more common than you might think. Yet each individual has their own set of circumstances, their own priorities, their own way of looking at things, and things are just not that simple.
You may turn to friends and family and everyone has a different view point on what to do. Stay? Go?
You turn to a therapist to sort out your feelings and invariably you come to terms with the fact that things are going to have to change. Change is a scary thing to confront. The ugly word starts being bantered about. Divorce. Now what.
The first thing you should do is start finding out how to protect the best interests of yourself and your children. If you or your children are being ill treated or abused there are places you can go and things that you can do immediately to stop the abuse.
Call 911. Call child protective services, there is a department in each and every county in New York State. Go to Family Court and get an Order of Protection. Call your family lawyer. Or seek immediate custody of the subject children. At all costs, protect the children from harms way.
And then start worrying about what you must do to begin preparing for divorce. Call a New York City divorce lawyer. If you are in nyc and seek a top nyc divorce lawyer then search the internet and call a few attorneys and find one you are comfortable with. If you are in a smaller town or county you can call your local Bar Association for a referral. But by all means get help. Do not stay in a situation of domestic violence. The NY Family Court has a wonderful history of providing a respite for those in fear of their lives.
And if you feel you just can not go it alone, do not be afraid to seek out professional help from a New York State lawyer. The more experienced ones will know just what to do to protect your legal rights in an efficient way and make you feel comfortable at the same time. Your secrets are safe with a ny divorce lawyer. If the above sounds familiar do not hesitate to act now. Hire a nyc divorce lawyer now.
If you are safe and out of harm’s way, then seek a New York Divorce Lawyer. If you are in New York City, then here is a partial list of some shelters you can go to until you have a chance to see a reputable New York Divorce lawyer or New York Family Law Lawyer.
NYC Women’s Shelter Intakes
Franklin, 1122 Franklin Avenue, Bronx
Jamaica Armory, 93-03 168th St., Jamaica, Queens
Brooklyn Women’s Shelter, 116 Williams Ave., Brooklyn
Resources Equinox Domestic Violence Services
95 Central Avenue
Albany, NY 12206
45 Carlton Street
Buffalo, New York 14203
P.0. Box 451 Ellicott Station
Buffalo, New York 14205
Nassau County Coalition Against Domestic Violence
250 Fulton Ave. Mezz. West
Hempstead, NY 11550
The Salvation Army of the Syracuse Area
677 South Salina Street
Syracuse, NY 13202
P. O. Box 365
Syracuse, NY 14309
(315) 468-3260 – 24-hour Crisis
and Support Line
Women In Need
115 West 31st Street
New York, NY 10001
Yonkers MHA (YWCA)
87 South Broadway
Yonkers, NY 10701
National Domestic Violence Hotline for referrals and support: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY: 1-800-787-3224.
New York 24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-942-6906 (English) or 1-800-942-6908 (Spanish).
By: Lisa Beth Older
web page: http://www.lawofficesoflisabetholder.com
Warning: The information contained herein is not intended to substitute for legal advice from your own retained lawyer in new york state. this article is merely informational in nature, and is based upon one attorney’s knowledge of the practice of family law, matrimonial law, domestic violence, custody, child support and orders of protection.
Retain counsel before you do anything to affect your marital status and follow the advice of the lawyer you retain, not what is written herein.
Brooklyn, NY (PRWEB) July 6, 2010
New York, NY (PRWEB) July 6, 2010 — Hip Hop artist FACE THA MUSIC was a guest on the Hot 97 show Street Soldiershosted by Lisa Evers on June 20, 2010, at 9am. Airing on Fathers Day, the shows topic was about how fathers need to take responsibility for raising their child, the importance of their role as a father as it relates to the impact it has on their childs life and New York City programs available to single fathers and mothers that protect the best interest of their child.
Other guests on the show included Frances Pardus-AbbadessaDeputy Commissioner of the New York City Human Resources Administration, Israel Rosario, Jr.Executive Director of Parent Resources of the New York City Human Resources Administration and Dr. Jeff Gardere of VH1s Dad Camp TV show.
FACE THA MUSIC brought up the perspective of a single father who takes the responsibility to help raise his daughter with her mother. In fact, he put aside his career in the music industry for 6 years because he believed it was important to focus on that bond with her and did not want the demands of his music career interfering with his role as a father.
I never regretted leaving the music industry to help raise my daughter, says FACE THA MUSIC. I have the best of both worlds now because she loves music and will very often come to my recording sessions. I am including her in what I love to do; we even did a song together called Dear Amya.
The full episode can be listened to by visiting http://www.hot97.com/streetsoldiers/ and clicking on the June 20, 2010 podcast. Lisa Evers of Street Soldiers opens the mics every Sunday from 9am to 10am for a roundtable dialogue about the most critical and hottest issues affecting the hip hop community. Using street contacts and sources, she gets guests and listeners to tackle a wide variety of topics ranging from police brutality, drug abuse and safe sex to gang violence and racial profiling. The show tackles the most important issues facing the community as it happens.
Street Soldiers producer, Tone Capone, chose FACE THA MUSIC for this particular episode because he has demonstrated good values, giving up what he loves so that he can help raise his daughter. Thats what its all about.
The New York City Human Resources Administration (HRA) have two initiatives underway: NYC DADSan ongoing program that hosts an informational website with opportunities for fathers to engage with their children at little or no cost, and the Man Up to Child Support radio campaign which reaches out to parents to educate them on child support and other services to assist families.
The HRA believes that fulfilling the emotional and financial responsibility to their children is one of the most effective ways children stay out of poverty. Dads who pay child support tend to also be more involved with their children, and involvement leads to children less likely to use drugs, engage in criminal activity and be suspended from or drop out of school.
Dr. Jeff Garderes Dad Camp airing on VH1 works with fathers who do not take responsibility for raising their kids, aka deadbeat dads, attempting to change their behavior by making them understand the importance a father has in a childs life.
Face Tha Musics new singleMy Favorite Songis now being circulated to the music industry with rave reviews and will soon be released to the public. One well known DJ said the song will rock the club and another said this could be my favorite song. A music video of My Favorite Song will be released August, 2010.
You can learn more about FACE THA MUSIC, and hear 14 tracks by going to his website, http://www.facethamusic.com and visiting him on http://www.myspace.com/facethamusic and http://www.twitter.com/facethamusic.
New York, NY (PRWEB) July 12, 2010
New York City divorce, custody and appellate lawyer Lisa Beth Older, Esq. appeared on Fox Five News on July 9, 2010 to provide legal analysis for a television segment on the latest Court ruling on Gay Marriage, commenting on the Federal Ban against gay marriage and the Judge who called the ban unconstitutional.
On July 8, 2010 the United States District Court Judge Joseph Tauro, appointed to the Court by Richard Nixon, struck down DOMA, or the Defense of Marriage Act, as unconstitutional as applied to Massachusetts. ( Mass.v. US Dept of Health, et al., Civil Action No. 1:09-11156-JLT). DOMA was struck down because the law failed to provide equal protection of the law for gay and lesbian couples and because it impinged upon a States’ right to define marriage, stripped the States of the right to legislate under the 10th amendment to the constitution, and disallowed the State from equally distributing federal funds amongst its citizenship, thus invoking invidious discrimination against its citizens.
The Federal Ban against gay marriage codified as the “Defense of Marriage Act” or referred to as “DOMA”, was enacted by the Clinton Administration in 1996.
The act of the Federal District Court in striking down DOMA lends strong support to gay and lesbian couples in their legitimate quest to have equal rights, and to also have equal access to New York Courts for the purpose of seeking relief as to their children in disputes involving custody visitation, child support and divorce rights attendant to same sex marriages performed in alternate States.
“Under the current law known as DOMA, the federal government does not recognize same sex unions” says New York City divorce lawyer Lisa Beth Older, Esq. “DOMA narrowly defines marriage, and derivative parentage rights, as a union between a man and a woman.” DOMA states that parties to a same sex unions shall not be allowed to take advantage of federal benefits and protections given to and enjoyed by heterosexual couples. Examples of the kind of benefits prohibited to gay and lesbian couples are the benefits derived from any Federal program, such as being allowed to sign of joint tax returns, being allowed to receive health insurance benefits, having federal burial rights for surviving spouses of a deceased gay and lesbian service man or service woman, and other such federal benefits stemming from federal employment. While DOMA does not expressly preclude States from passing their own laws affirming gay and lesbian marriage, DOMA does expressly allow a State to not recognize a same sex marriages performed in alternate State that has in fact legalized gay and lesbian marriage. The legitimacy of DOMA affects all gay and lesbian couples in Iowa, Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont, along with the District of Columbia.
The lawsuit against the legitimacy of DOMA was filed by the Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defense group, and a second companion case was filed by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts in the Federal District Court.
The Obama Administration is likely to appeal the law to the United States Circuit even though he campaigned for president in favor of repealing DOMA. Obama will need to make a tough decision soon.
Proponents of the law say that the Justice Department is bound to enforce and defend laws of the land.
Presently there are five States that recognize gay and lesbian marriage, those being New Hampshire, Vermont, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Iowa , as well as the District of Columbia. This ruling will likely have gay and lesbian couples rallying for similar law suits against DOMA in their respective States.
Thus, if Obama decides to appeal the ruling to the United States Circuit Court, and if the higher Court agrees with Judge Tauro’s ruling then, and if the Justice Department appeals that holding as well the case will likely go all the way to the United States Supreme Court. If DOMA is found unconstitutional. there, then DOMA will no longer be the law of the land. If the opposite result appertains, and DOMA withstands the legal challenge, then DOMA still prevails and the ban against gay and lesbian marriage will be stronger than ever. This is a frightening prospect for gay and lesbian couples across the board who deserve equal protection under the law.
Gay and lesbian Marriage has been recognized in Massachusetts since 2004. Now that a Federal Judge has struck down DOMA, gay and lesbian spouses or couples of same sex unions will now be allowed to apply for federal benefits, this only after the automatic fifteen (15) day automatic Stay lapses and absent any newer stays by the Circuit Court. This ruling will open the flood gates for legal action by gay and lesbian citizens of States that have legalized same sex marriage.
Lisa Beth Older, Esq. opines that the Federal ruling will also likely affect gay and lesbian custody rights. Where there is marriage, there is divorce. As such, it will be interesting to see what effect if any the ruling of the Federal Court striking down the Defense of Marriage Act will have on New York Family Court cases.
The Federal Court ruling will have an impact on gay and lesbian disputes in New York. “The New York Court of Appeals is charged with dealing with problems of law stemming from paternity, child support, custody and divorce” says New York appellate and divorce lawyer Lisa Beth Older. At present, New York does not recognize gay and lesbian marriage and divorce and in many instances limits standing of gay couples to sue in family court. However, in a recent series of cases coming down from the New York Court of Appeal in May 2010 the New York’s highest Court has begun to seriously grabble with the problem of how to deal with children of gay and lesbian marriages or gay and lesbian unions in custody and support cases.
Prior to May 4, 2010, if a child of a New York same sex couple was conceived through artificial insemination, and if the subject child of that union was not adopted by both gay and lesbian parents in New York, then the non-adoptive, non- biological parent had no standing to sue for custody and visitation, and the biological parent had no responsibility to provide child support for the child. Now, the law as to child support and gay couples has changed dramatically. As of May 4, 2010 the Court of Appeals, in the Matter of H.M. v. E.T held that a same sex partner may sue a non-biological partner for child support, regardless of the lack of adoption or biological ties. This holding broke new ground for Gay and lesbian rights by expanding the notion of parentage beyond the borders of heterosexual couples with an emphasis on the child’s attachments and on the “best interest of the children.” There, the Court of Appeals recognized the right of a gay and lesbian woman to sue for child support in Family Court as against a same sex parent. This ruling has large consequences as it gives the State Courts power to define who is a parent for purposes of child support.
As to the rights of gay and lesbian couples to sue for custody, the New York Court of Appeals is not as liberal. The holding in the Matter of Alison D. v. Virginia M. (77 N.Y.2d 651, 1991) stated that New York parenthood requires that there be a biological or adoptive relationship between parent and child before custody may be asserted. However, the Court of Appeals in May 2010 diverted from this position, at least in part. While reviewing a New York lower court holding on a visitation case involving a same sex marriage of Vermont, the case of Debra H. v. Janice R (Court of Appeals May 4, 2010, NY slip opinion 0375), the Court held that New York must now recognize Debra H.’s parental status under the law of Vermont.
Lisa Beth Older states that “the case of Debra R. is just start. More must be done by the legislature and the Courts in interpreting these laws of access to Family Court through the prism of the United Stated Constitution.” Holding on to the last vestiges of Matter of Allison, supra, the Court held that while New York still does not recognize a gay and lesbian parent’s right to sue for custody of their child absent an adoptive or biological relationship to the child, if the child is born of a legally recognized same sex marriage in another State where same sex marriage is legal, that parent may indeed sue for custody. This may be a step in the right direction.
Accordingly Judge Taro’s federal ruling banning the Federal government from legislating unequally between gay and lesbian and heterosexual couples, by giving rights to heterosexuals without giving equal rights to gay and lesbian couples bears on New York State’s power to overrule and strike down any State law that unconstitutionally fails to provide equal access to the Courts, equality, due process of law, and justice to all of its citizens. The Federal holding will serve as a platform to empower New York State Courts to start providing all couples, gay and lesbian alike, equal access and standing to utilize the Courts for purposes of suing for custody, visitation and child support. This ruling would allow brave Courts throughout this country to challenge State laws that discriminate against one set of parents while allowing other parents to have access to the court system to secure their rights of access to gay and lesbian parents.
The Federal District Court holding, while only relevant to Massachusetts, supports the notion that State and Federal governments may not pass and enforcing laws that discriminate against some of its citizens, while providing government benefits to other groups of citizens. By way of deduction, this holding would support the fact that both Federal as well as State governments should not pass and enforce laws that deny equal access to the Courts. Under the Constitutional provisions of equal protection of the law, all citizens, whether they be gay, lesbian or heterosexual must be afforded equal and identical benefits of due process of law through access to our State Courts for the purpose of disputing custody and visitation claims. Derivatively all children would benefit from a proactive Court whose aim is to protect innocent children, whether they be the product of gay or heterosexual couples.
(PRWEB) April 12, 2005
A prominent New York City Divorce Attorney, Lisa Beth Older, will offer two Free New York Divorce Seminars and will provide legal services on one (1) pro bono case as described herein.
Be Prepared! Learn how to manage your divorce! Lisa Beth Older, Esq., a prominent New York divorce Attorney, will offer two (2) free divorce seminars on New York Divorce featuring a program of information and providing resources designed to help those experiencing problems in the areas of New York Family law or New York divorce law. A Scholarship program is in the works. For now, one (1) person per seminar will be eligible for free legal representation in a divorce case that is pro bono representation.
There are plans in the making to enlarge the pro bono program for year 2006. The person who will receive the pro bono representation will be chosen based upon need, merit and upon the sole discretion of the attorney who accepts your case, and must have been an actual participant of one of the free seminars.
The first seminar will be held in Battery Park City, New York on a first come/ first serve basis. In order to gage public in attending this anticipated event on divorce law to be offered by New York City lawyer Lisa Beth Older you must call before May 1, 2005, so call ahead to arrange for seating at 212-786-0901, or 845-246-0400. For further updates try going to the web page http://www.nycdivorcelawyer.net or write in to Soul Mate Studio c/o P.O. Box 697 Woodstock New York 12498. Limited seating available on a first come, first serve basis.
The main speaker at the program will be New York Divorce lawyer Lisa Beth Older, who is an educated, articulate and inspirational speaker for all people that have been challenged by life’s personal misfortunes. Her experience in life has made Lisa Beth Older, a New York City Divorce Lawyer, more sympathetic than others might be toward spouses and children undergoing the prospect of divorce. New York Attorney Lisa Beth Older is herself a product of multiple divorces. Her mother having died at age 6, and her father thereafter marrying four (4) more times, she is particularly knowledgeable and empathetic about the strife that parents and children must go through in the divorce process. Forced to leave home at an early age, the fact that she put herself through high school, college and law school is testimony to her levels of drive and courage and is an inspiration for all spouses facing the prospect of divorce or the break up of a marriage. Her seminar will provide valuable information and resources on practical ways in which to best protect the inherent right of your children to be protected from the vicissitudes of divorce. As a child, Lisa Beth Older was a product of broken marriages. As an adult, Lisa Beth Older, Esq. turned her stumbling blocks into stepping-stones in her ever-growing career as a New York State Divorce attorney.
Lisa Beth older has also co-authored the published Video and DVD on New York Divorce entitled “Divorce Tactics.
New York City divorce Attorney Lisa Beth Older sees the separating or divorce process as a potential opportunity rather than as desperate solution and incorporates that philosophy in her inspiring seminars: Lisa Beth Older says, I see divorce as a way to improve your life. Faced with new challenges, living on your own also provides new opportunities. For one, you are providing your self with a fresh start, a second chance, so to speak, to meet a life partner that will treat you more kindly or is more compatible with your life style or needs. Secondly, and more importantly, if you have children, your children will not have to be subjected to the unanticipated and later regretful arguments of their parents, both of whom they love dearly and see as a reflection of themselves.
This summer the two seminars will be offered upon a showing of public interest. The seminars may be taped, filmed and subject to Broadcast. All participants must be willing to sign releases upon their approval of the broadcast content or cannot attend. All speakers will be in good standing with the New York State Bar or in their area of medical or therapeutic area of practice. A Pro bono award for legal services will be awarded to only one (1) person who must be an actual participant of one of the free seminars, and the award for pro bono services will be based upon need and merit, at the sole discretion of the program director, and based upon actual attendance at the seminar. Some highlights of the seminar will touch on the following themes:
Although the New York legislature is trying to change that you still must plead fault, or else have a separation agreement serve as grounds. While grounds are essential for getting divorced in New York State, most parties can stipulate to grounds. The seminar will discuss what you as an individual should really focuses on, three main subjects, known by the authors acronym: C-P-S
“C” stands for Custody of the subject children
“P” stands for Property Distribution between the parties, who get what, called “equitable distribution”
“S” stands for Child support and or spousal support
Pearls of Wisdom:
If you do not have grounds, or if you can not stipulate or consent to grounds with your spouse then you can still settle the three areas of concern in a separation agreement with respect to Support Custody and Property Distribution.
Learn to make your divorce decisions like you would make any of your other business decisions, taking into account the needs and best interests of your children and how best to preserve the marital estate. A New York State Divorce Lawyer is essential to help you put what you need into your separation agreement so that it protects your legal rights, but only you can provide the solution to your family problems, the answers that will actually work for you. Your input is essential, but try not to immerse yourself in, or try to understand the “how to” of the process, let your New York Divorce Attorney or New York City Divorce Lawyer figure out the legalities.
As far as general information goes, the seminar hopes to demystify the divorce process. A wise old Judge once summarized divorce law like this: Do not make it more complicated than it has to be. Make your divorce decisions like you would make any of your other business decisions, taking into account the needs and best interests of your children and how best to preserve the marital estate.
Your New York Divorce Attorney can help you protect your legal rights but only you can provide the answers to your family problems. Let your New York Divorce Attorney or New York City Divorce Lawyer figure out the legalities. Do not immerse yourself unduly in, or try to understand fully the “how to” of the divorce process, let your trained and skilled New York Divorce Lawyer do that for you. However the seminar hopes to provide practical tips on how to manage your divorce, and helps you focus your attention back to the important things, that is custody, support and property distribution. Be savvy and creative, but be realistic and fair about what you can achieve. At the seminar you will learn that if you have children your spouse will be in your life no matter what on no matter how limited a basis. You will learn that it is important that the spouses remain civil to one another. It might even be economically advantageous. It will certainly be a blessing for the well being of your children who will likely be most impacted by your decision making process. You will also learn how your New York City divorce lawyer or any divorce attorney of your choice should inform you about what you want with respect to custody, support and property distribution. Be savvy and creative, but be realistic about what you can achieve.
Janeric Ohrn will be the contact person for the New York Divorce Seminar at 212-786-0901 or 845-246-0400 with any brief questions. With the written permission of the participants he may also tape the event for broadcasting. You may learn more about this exciting event and other similar pro bono services that may be offered by going directly to nycdivorcelawyer.net. Use the “contact US” button.
Disclaimer: All of the above Article and information contained therein is for general public information purposes only and it is
Not intended to be Legal Advice of any kind. The New York divorce seminar program is not formally associated with the Law Offices of Lisa Beth Older, per se, but is a separate entity, designed to provide seminars through Soul Mate Studio productions.
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New York, NY (PRWEB) February 19, 2013
Lisa Beth Older says that “New York Divorce lawyers should be cognizant of Post Partum depression” in arguing all New York custody cases dealing with mothers that just gave birth. Marital dissension or custody battles often require that parties seek professional psychiatric help. Availing oneself of psychiatric services during transitional stages such as custody battle should not be used against a party.
Lisa Beth Older, Esq. states that issues surrounding post partum depression often arise in her child custody cases. In analyzing post partum depression, she alludes to a case she read in the New York Times. According to a New York Times article published on February 2, 2013, in the case of Sporn v New York City Administration, (Index No.100091/2013, New York City Supreme Court) the alleged underlying facts were that the Mother had undergone in vitro fertilization with an anonymous donor and was raising the baby with one Dr. Sporn. Allegedly the Mother thereafter underwent treatment for post partum and other psychiatric issues but left treatment early took the child and rented an alternate apartment, thereafter committing suicide on New Year’s Day. According to the article, her alleged condition leading to her death was aggravated by post partum Depression. After the Mother’s suicide, the child was placed in the custody of Child Protective Services and the acting father is seeking custody.
Parties in New York with mental illness often avoid seeking mental health services for fear of losing custody of their children. U.S. statistics show that as many as 70-80 percent will lose custody if mental illness is proven in the case. (See Joanne Nicholson, Elaine Sweeny, and Jeffrey Geller. Mothers With Mental Illness: II. Family Relationships and the Context of Parenting. May 1998. Vol. 49. No. 5.) Divorces are often started because mothers of new-born children find themselves in a temporary state of depression, a state which may pass with familial support psychological care, medication and time. Katherine Stone is the founder and editor of Postpartum Progress, the leading blog on postpartum depression. She states in part that statistics show that around 11% to 20% of women suffer from postpartum depression, or 1.3 million Women per year suffer post partum depression. Dr. Ruta Nonacs of Massachusetts General Hospital and Harvard Medical School ads, Postpartum depression is far more common than gestational diabetes.
Lisa Beth Older, Esq. says that “there must be a growing awareness of post partum depression and how it might affect a client in a custody case” because post partum depression can mimic other, more serious psychological issues.” Lisa Beth Older maintains a family law practice in New York City and has represented many women who have suffered from post partum depression. “New York Divorce lawyers should be cognizant of the issues surrounding Post Partum depression” in arguing cases dealing with mothers that have just given birth. By: New York Divorce Lawyer Lisa Beth Older, Esq. http://www.nycdivorcelawyer.net