Boston, MA (PRWEB) January 4, 2010
Laurie A. Couture, author of Instead of Medicating and Punishing, offers attachment-focused phone, email and face-to-face consultation for parents and professionals who work with children and families. Laurie works with parents and professionals to help them understand three key points:
Behavioral acting-out, emotional instability and problems with school performance are alarm signals that alert us that something is distressing and hurting the child.
Contrary to popular belief, it is natural for adolescents to stay emotionally close and connected to their parents.
Children of all ages from infancy through late adolescence need specific parenting and educational environments in order to feel happy, thrive, cooperate and reach their full potentials.
Laurie will guide parents and professionals to:
Discover principles to help parents heal their relationships with their children, regardless of their age,
Identify the surprising parenting and learning conditions that children’s brains need for mental, emotional and behavioral health and for optimal learning,
Understand why behavior modification, rewards and punishments, diagnoses and medication do not heal children or make them happy, cooperative, compassionate people,
Differentiate between the popular therapies and special education services that can actually worsen the behavior and distress of children and which treatments lead to lasting solutions, and
Learn respectful, refreshing, natural discipline principles that parents can apply to facilitate family closeness and cooperation, respectful communication and empathy for others.
Laurie A. Couture appears in the recently released film documentary, The War on Kids, which was featured on The Colbert Report and MSNBCs Dr. Nancy. With years of experience as a mental health counselor, social worker and parenting trainer, Laurie has inside knowledge of how the educational and mental health systems keep families dependent upon family-eroding institutions, services and psychiatric drugs. Laurie has helped hundreds of children and families find relief, hope and closer relationships.
As a mom of a 16 year old boy, Laurie works compassionately with a diversity of families, including families who have had involvement by child protective services. Laurie offers family-preserving expertise to adoptive and kinship families. She works respectfully with families of all cultural and socioeconomic backgrounds, as well as homeschooling and attachment-parenting families.
Jacksonville, Florida (PRWEB) February 06, 2012
On the same day that media focused attention on a man in a Clay County, Florida courthouse pleading guilty to the abduction, sexual abuse and murder of a 7-year old Florida girl, in another area of Jacksonville, professionals, advocates and child sexual abuse survivors joined together for the “Protect the Children Conference”, dedicated to stopping the insidious crime of sexual abuse against children.
Nora Harlow, founder of the Child Molestation Research and Prevention Institute in Atlanta asked attendees of the Protect The Children Conference, “If there are 43 million victims of child sexual abuse out there, how many abusers are out there? You are not going to like it,” she explained. “The truth is that we just don’t know. We do know that only 2 million of these abusers are in the Criminal Justice System. Yet our research points to millions more out there abusing children.” Who are they?
“Child sexual abuse is a bad thing. We want the people who do it to look like bad people, but they don’t,” explained Nora Harlow. “These people show up as coaches, teachers, after school volunteers, friends, family and mentors. Not at all who you would expect them to be. Not until we put our anger aside and put the children first are we going to be able to stop this abuse.”
Who do the children tell? According to the Child Molestation Research & Prevention Institute
60% will tell no one. 40% will tell an adult – but only 6% of those adults told of the sexual abuse will report it to the police. The vast majority of victims go untreated and the abusers move on to groom their next prey. Harlow asked the attendees, “If all of those same children walked into a classroom on crutches, would we ignore them? Would we as adults be so traumatized that we fail to help? Yet, in the case of child sexual abuse, that is exactly what we do, nothing.”
Why don’t more children tell? Studies done by the Child Molestation Research and Prevention Institute reveals that the majority of the children don’t tell because they don’t want to upset their mother. Others suffer from shame, humiliation and guilt because their abusers groom them to feel that they somehow bear responsibility for their own victimization.
The cost of child sexual abuse extends beyond the emotional destruction of its victims and is linked to immune system failure, increased illnesses, frequent hospitalization and death. According to speaker Dr. Robin Jenkins of the North Carolina Department of Public Safety’s Juvenile Justice System the financial impact is also great. He shared a report, (Fang, Brown, Florence, Mercy: Child Abuse and Neglect: 2012), stating it to be $ 1,272,000 in lifetime victim costs, and $ 585 billion combined fatal and nonfatal child maltreatment costs in 2008 dollars.
Even with the media attention given to Penn State, Syracuse and others, people still don’t want to talk about it. People want to believe that it happens to other people and in other cities. Harlow provided startling facts to drive home her point. “In an average 8th grade class of 32 students, four girls have been sexually abused, two boys have been sexually abused and one boy will have sexually abused a younger child.”
Who is the Child Sexual Abuser? According to Nora Harlow’s extensive research: 70% are male, 90% are heterosexual, 93% are religious, 77% are married or formerly married, 69% are Caucasian and 46% are college educated. Any of these characteristics sound familiar? They should, they mirror what the United States Census bureau characterizes as reflective of the nation’s demographic. The child sexual abuser’s attraction to youth runs on a separate track from their adult sexual behavior.
How can we prevent it? By using every tool available to us so that these people don’t gain access to our children in places where they should expect to feel safe. Criminal background checks alone won’t help identify perpetrators. After years of research and study, Nora Harlow and Dr. Gene Abel, (Director of Research at Abel Screening and considered by many to be the leading psycho-physiology research in child sexual abuse in the United States), developed an assessment tool that effectively identifies a person’s inability to comprehend what proper boundaries should exist between adults and children. Called the Diana Screen
Bennett, CO (PRWEB) April 21, 2012
What happens to our natural instinct, as a mother, to protect our child when he or she is ordered to one of the most dangerous places in the world? What gets us through the day? How do we survive? These are the questions Tracie Ciambotti, author of the new book Battles of the Heart: Boot Camp For Military Moms (published by WestBow Press), asked herself when her son, Josh, was sent to Baghdad. Ciambotti sensed that thousands of moms across the country were also asking these same questions, and she felt burdened to help.
Ciambottis son, Josh, enlisted in the U.S. Army two days after he graduated from high school in 2005. Five months later he was on his way to Baghdad and the reality of war began to sink into the depths of Ciambottis heart. She describes this period as an emotional battle.
Its the theme of my book the emotional battle that occurs when your child deploys to a war zone, says Ciambotti. Battles of the Heart is my personal experience of the war that was raging in my mind and heart while my son was fighting the war in Iraq. My son was trained and ready for his war. I, as a parent, had no idea that I was marching into my own battle at home. Part II of my Boot Camp for Military Moms is a training guide to prepare military moms and family members for the emotional challenges of deployments.
The importance of Battles of the Heart, says Ciambotti, is it exposes the burden placed on our military families from multiple deployments and the need for a systematic approach to supporting the parents and extended families of our service members. My personal struggle with the challenges of military life and the lack of support available for the families of our service members inspired me to write Battles of the Heart.
Ciambotti hopes her new work will reach not only military families, but all families.
My hope is for this book to increase awareness to the civilian community of the sacrifices made by military families and promote an understanding that our nations freedom is not free service members and their families pay a very real price for our freedom.
About the Author
Tracie Ciambotti is the co-founder of Military Families Ministry, a non-profit organization that supports service members and their families. Her experiences as the mother of an U.S. Army infantryman over the past six years have afforded her the passion and knowledge to be an advocate for military families. Ciambotti is a Blue Star Mother (Denver chapter) and a contributor to the blog, Off the Base, which focuses on creating civilian awareness of military life. She lives in Bennett, Colorado, with her husband, Jeff.
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Newmarket, Suffolk (PRWEB UK) 13 December 2012
There are few experiences more painful than divorce and family separation.
In stress terms, relationship break-ups appear to share emotions likened to bereavement, which of course it is! During the free-for-all of accusations, fights, threats, and fears of separation, along with any subsequent divorce, there are very few winners – and even fewer intact emotional survivors!
However, does there need to be a further cost to pay, by default?
Mediation can help.
When the communications break down, there are very few healthy avenues left in which to move through and on from the separation. Helping to overcome this is good family lawyers who are pro-active in offering or referring to the services of a Mediator. As of April 2011, it is a requirement in the UK for divorcing couples to consider Mediation before completing court proceedings
Mediation can help provide for a more harmonious settlement of child welfare and financial matters at a time where it may feel impossible to have such conversations without point scoring.
Mediation is not however an attempt for reconciliation, simply to provide a communications conduit, and environment, to facilitate impartial, non-judgmental negotiations – with the preferred outcome being win-win. (Resolution Advice)
If a couple use a mediator and they come to facilitated meeting/s with the right heart, that is they have attended and agreed of their own free will (rather than be ordered), their chances of working through the other hugely emotive and stressful matters, such as any children, finances, the homes and pets, are greatly enhanced
Mediation is one crucial avenue requiring careful consideration to protect yourself and your family from at least some of the emotional duress, whilst providing a route to better communications beyond the separation. Another important aspect that can bring sustainable emotional health benefits for the entire family – is family and individual centred counselling and guidance
It is possible to manage your present and future emotional well-being. (Even if it feels a bit late for that by this time) and it may be too late for the marriage and partnership; but for ongoing emotional mental health it can be highly beneficial.
It is of course preferable to avoid playing one another off against the kids, and it is helpful for all parties to be able to talk when there is a need to discuss the children’s future.
Expressing your emotions and feelings in an impartial, non-judgmental environment, with a professional listener, can facilitate the means to bring closure to a number of existing elements with the relationship that has ended. This helpfully allows the parties to progress into future relationships with a healthy frame of mind, rather than risk bringing the past emotions to an unsuspecting new partner and relationship.
Change is clearly inevitable for all involved in separation and divorce, and with change comes a number of other potentially harmful emotions. How long these last can depend on whether they are provided opportunity to be aired in that non-judgmental and impartial environment, just as with that provided for the more practical elements in mediation and counselling
With change comes fear and anxiety; often accompanying these emotions can be anger and resentment, and all of this overflows into outpourings of emotional behaviours and intolerance to that which you would ordinarily accommodate. Families involved in break-up have to get used to so many new ways – and each individuals subconscious would prefer routine, even if that involved discomfort!
Counselling can further invest in all parties current and future emotional well-being, potentially avoiding a negative emotional legacy.
In times of personal crisis, we appear to have a tendency to believe we are victims to the entire process. This may be the case for a moment in time and during an event, but this lack of personal empowerment can be overcome, and it is that which can determine how to continue through the rest of life.
A legacy of resentment for past, current and future relationships can be overcome; it is possible to take each moment of every communication and formulate responses based on the present, rather than the past?
We do get to choose.